Every year, countless people resolve to make changes to their lives at the stroke of midnight New Year's eve. A few days, weeks, or months later, those resolutions are forgotten or recalled with crushing guilt and despair. Here are ten tips for how to have realistic New Year's resolutions that you can successfully meet and avoid the guilt trip later on.
Often, the best laid plans of mice
and men are nothing more then empty talk. People frequently become
intimidated by the scope of what they had voiced a desire to do. Some
become overwhelmed by the pure magnitude of work required to accomplish
their stated goal. Breaking a large goal into smaller parts makes the
resolution less overwhelming and easier to accomplish.
Respect Your Limits
times, people assume that they must push their limitations in achieving
things. This is only true in a few areas. And within those areas, it is
only true in moderation. If you desire to improve your weight, for
example, it is important to work within the needs that you have and your
financial constraints. Failure to consider your dietary needs, in this
case, can lead to serious health consequences that could have been
easily avoided by merely keeping your limitations in mind. Similarly,
making changes in one's life requires that a person incorporates these
changes into their existing life. Failing to work with your limitations
sets you up for frustration and failure.
Make a Plan for Success
quick look at the major players in the world, you find that all of them
rose to success and fame by way of hard work and planning. Planning
incorporates accounting for your constraints and weaknesses as well as
how you will utilize your assets and strengths. A good plan considers
potential problems and alternate routes to success.
Respect Your Schedule
are only twenty four hours in the day. As much as one might like to
devote all of their time to their resolutions, it is vital that their
schedule is adhered to. This allows you to be successful in many areas,
including your new resolutions. Proper scheduling helps a person to use
their time wisely and more efficiently.
people are tempted to compare their progress with the progress of
others. This sets up false expectations. Judge your efforts on their own
merits. Your resolutions are for you and can only meet your needs. The
people who have similar resolutions have different life circumstances
that will lead their path to success in a different direction then
Do Use Your Support Network
Just as a
marathon runner draws strength from their cheering section, so to do
people who are striving to accomplish new goals with their New Year's
resolutions. Make a point of informing the people closest to you what
you are seeking to accomplish.
Ask for Help When Needed
is difficult to ask for help. Sometimes, people feel that it is a sign
of weakness to ask for assistance. Nothing can be farther from the
truth. If you are struggling to fulfill your resolution, look to your
support network. They can provide you with new ideas on how to approach
Be Flexible on Order of Accomplishment
times, a person is tempted to list out their goals as a timeline of
what is to be accomplished. The path to success, however, is not always a
straight line. Some goals may be accomplished in a fashion that defies
the original planned timeline. Flexibility in how one approaches this
situation helps a person to be successful because it frees up their
mental resources to address the challenges before them. Rather then
dwelling on how item A should have happened before item B, the flexible
person appreciates that they completed item B and resumes work on
accomplishing item A.
your own worst critic, it is easy to assume that problems and bumps
along the path to success are an expression of how you are a failure as a
person. When working on accomplishing any new skill or life goal, it is
wise to consider the successes that one has rather then the problems.
Thomas Edison is a fine example of a person who was compassionate in how
they approached difficulties in reaching their goals. When asked about
his difficulties in devising a working light bulb, he chose to phrase
his response in a positive manner, famously stating "I have not failed a
thousand times. I have succeeded in proving a thousand ways it will not
Don't Over Share Your Plans
careful about who you share your plans with. Make certain that the
people who are made privy to your New Year's resolutions and goals are
people who will greet this undertaking positively. Surrounding oneself
with people who encourage an optimistic and positive outlook on their
goals helps to boost one's confidence.
With a little forethought
and some careful consideration, it is possible to make lasting changes
by way of New Year's resolutions. Treat your goals with the respect that
they deserve and do the same for yourself. Ultimately, a New Year's
resolution is about what you seek to improve about yourself. Look for
the positives and you will astound yourself by what you can accomplish.